The time to think about teaching your kids urban survival skills is before they’re out on their own.
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The time to think about teaching your kids urban survival skills is before they’re out on their own.
» Read more: Urban survival skills for living in the real world
Just 5 more minutes. I hear that same old phrase being used over and over again. It’s mostly said when someone wants to finish up something before rushing off to do something else. Sometimes these words have been heard from my own mouth. Do you have 5 minutes to spare? Whether you’re unemployed, underemployed or employed everybody has at least 5 minutes to spare. I think 5 minutes can change somebody’s life. » Read more: It only takes 5 minutes
I don’t have enough time is something I hear people say all the time. It’s not really the truth. You need to really sit down and listen to what you’re saying to others. The message you’re sending is I won’t make the time.
Consider how much time it would actually take to sit down and pay a little attention to your loved ones. If you really love them, you need to make the time.
Here are some ways you can make the time: » Read more: 15 ways to make time for others
How do you know you’re going down the right path?
Here are some questions to ask yourself:
If you couldn’t answer these basic questions, stop right now. You need a Life Vision. It tells you who you are and what your values are. You need a Career Vision. It tells you and others what you do. When you have both your Life and Career Visions together you will see where you need to go. Your mission statements will tell you and others how you plan to achieve your Visions.
If you don’t take the time to find out where you are headed and check against where you should be going, then you can’t say if you’re heading down the right or the wrong path?
The Right Path:
A Clear Vision:
A Clear Mission:
Do yourself a favor, take bearings on where you are. Set your course on where you should be and periodically check yourself against the path you have set. Make minor corrections along the way to ensure your Life & Career Missions become successful.
I woke up yesterday feeling really great and ready to take on the world. I had a meeting at 9AM and was getting ready for a busy day.
Somone gave me Lemons
About 30 minutes before I had to leave, my son came to me and said that my car had been broken into in the middle of the night. Someone had broken the driver side window and stole my GPS unit. After a conversation with my neighbor I discovered it happened sometime after 4:20AM.
I do have to admit that I had a little bit of shock and anger related to that incident. I felt violated that somebody did not respect my property and would break a window to steal something from my car. This was my first time to experience this.
That kind of changed my plans for the day. I suddenly had several more things to do; contact my insurance agent, file a police report, get my window replaced, find my proof of purchase for the GPS unit.
At this point I had been given some pretty sour lemons. What was I going to do? I had two paths to follow: I could be a victim, dwell on the negative and suffer, or I could let go of the anger and be thankful it was only a Window and my GPS unit and move on with life. I chose to take the latter path.
Make some Lemonade
So, what do I mean by making lemonade? Well, lemonade is made with three ingredients: lemons, water and sugar. I mean take the sour lemons and pour equal amounts of water and sugar on it. The lemons are your circumstances. The water is forgiveness (letting go of the anger). The sugar is to find the good in it (learning experience, remembering what you still have).
You are in control
Remember, when external forces affect your life, you are still in control of how you react. You can be a victim (focus on the anger) or you can make lemonade (let go of the anger) and focus on the good things you still have in life.
I’m suddenly thirsty for some lemonade, maybe you are too. I found this Perfect Lemonade Recipe to make some lemonade with real lemons.
Farm Town is habit forming. One might event say Farm Town is even addicting. Anyone who has played it before would agree that once you start being successful at expanding your farm, you really enjoy the game. The question is how does one advance so quickly. My friends have asked me the same question. They’re struggling along and see slow progress on their farms but they look at mine and have farm envy. I’m not the best, but I’m advancing pretty quickly. I didn’t learn some of these secrets until someone shared with me, so I’m going to tell you a few I’ve learned.
Hints to success in Farm Town:
NOTE: If you have no idea what Farm Town is, it’s a Facebook application.
You can find it by doing the following:
The weekend is coming up, so why not give Farm Town a try. I’m sure you’ll agree that growing crops on a farm was never so much fun.
WARNING: Use of Farm Town can be habit forming from having too much fun.
Experience Counted once upon a time
Once upon a time, there was this guy in his early twenties. He graduated from high school and decided he would go to college and get a degree. His parents had never gone to college before, so he knew he was already doing better than they had. Two years later he had earned an Associate degree in his chosen field. Shortly after that he found an employer that was willing to give young professionals a chance to work and once they had proven themselves they were given more responsibilities. The pay wasn’t a lot, but it was equal to the education and experience of the employee. He got married had some kids. Added some cars and a mortgage. Basically, he had gotten caught up in life. The only way he was able to keep up financially was because his work experience and performance were valued by the employer.
Flash forward a couple of decades
The same guy, was so wrapped up in work and trying to maintain a lifestyle that he didn’t realize the job requirements were changing. Over the years he had taken a few classes to update the skills he needed to keep his job. He later discovered that no matter how well he performed, the layoffs came anyway. The recession hit a lot of his colleagues as well.
The importance of paper
After he had gotten over the shock of losing his job, he discovered that the minimum requirements for the job he once held was raised from Associate Degree to Bachelor Degree. He found out that he no longer qualified for the job he was doing before. To make matters worse, there were a lot of other workers in the same boat as he was. They too had gotten a break without the benefit of the formal education and learned in the school of hard knocks. He found out that there was a whole generation of workers who had joined the workforce after him, that had earned their Bachelor Degrees.
The break
The good thing is that smaller companies are sometimes willing to take a chance on someone who does not have the formal education but has the experience and the talent to back it up. He had to look longer and harder to find that next opportunity, but he did eventually find one.
The moral of the story
The paper is important. It represents the formal education and all that comes with it. Many employers who contract with the government are required to hire employees with a minimum of a Bachelor degree. Sometimes, even that’s not enough.
Experience is important too. Along with experience comes wisdom. The practical application of knowledge. This comes from doing work in the real world.
The sad truth is that many young adults of today are repeating this story. They receive their high school diplomas. Get a taste of money, start to buy things on credit, fall in love. Before they know it, life sneaks up on them and they become slaves to their choices.
Sage advice
I’m suggesting that the twenty and thirty somethings choose a better path. Listen to those who have been down this road before. They have the experience and wisdom. If you ask them, they might even share with you some sage advice.
Choose to not be slaves of credit. Choose to wait on life changing decisions until you have finished ALL of your formal education. Believe me, it is so much harder to finish these things when you’re trying to support a family, your creditors and keep your lifestyle.
Consider this, today’s Bachelor Degree is yesterday’s High School Diploma. It used to be that you could get invited for an interview with just a diploma and relevant experience. This may still be true for service oriented jobs, but if you’re planning on going into a management, technical, scientific, engineering or academic field, you need to have that Bachelor degree as a minimum.
If you agree or disagree with this article, please post a comment. I want to hear what you have to say.
Make sure you share this article with every twenty or thirty something you know.
Hopefully, it will inspire them to finish their formal education before they make any other life changing decisions.
Reminiscing
The other day, my wife and I were doing our weekly menu planning. We try to balance the cooking effort to match our activities of the week. So when one of us needs to be at a meeting or other event, we usually plan out something quick and easy. We save the more involved dinners for when our time is not so limited. For some reason, the conversation we were having triggered a memory of one of my Mom’s casserole dishes in my mind. The smell and taste I remembered was wonderful. It was a casserole my Mom used to make when I was still living at home. I remembered parts of the recipe, but not all the ingredients.
The tragedy is my Mom passed away around 10 years ago, due to Ovarian Cancer. She was an amazing woman and a great cook. Unfortunately, I never asked her for my favorite recipes. Just as I was thinking all is lost and I would never taste those memorable dishes again, my wife suggested I ask my sister if she remembered the dish.
Re-Creation
So, I called my sister and described the casserole I was thinking about. To my delight, she said yes, she had the recipe. A few minutes more and I had a copy of the ingredients with cooking directions. The next day I made that casserole. The moment of truth was with that first bite. My wife asked if it tasted the same as I remembered? To my surprise it tasted exactly how I remembered.
I was thinking. If my sister has this recipe, maybe she was the smart one and recorded these recipes from Mom. So, I contacted my sister again and asked if she had any more of Mom’s recipes. She confirmed that she had them and would get them together for me. I am so lucky my sister captured this knowledge.
Advice
Never take your loved ones for granted. You may be used to seeing them on a semi-regular basis. Don’t forget to tell them how much they mean to you. If any of them are great cooks you might want to capture their knowledge before you realize one day that you don’t have access to it anymore.
My wife and I are planning to compile a book of our family’s favorite recipes this year. The kid’s might not appreciate the book right now, but they will a few years down the road. They’ll be saying wow, I’m glad they wrote down some of their knowledge for us.
This year we’re planning to start a tradition of sharing with our kids the recipes and show them how to make their favorite dishes.